The Wedding

We won, mi Oso.

On Friday, the United States Supreme Court decided that same-sex marriage was a Federal right. The voted opinion of a majority should have never been utilized to strip a minority group of its freedoms. I had been complaining about this ridiculous idea since 2004 when Ohio's Issue One put the one-man-one-woman definition of marriage into our State's Constitution! Issue One took the idea further by saying any attempt to mimic marriage was illegal.

I remember how we both felt after that Tuesday in November, Bear. We had lost and been horribly betrayed by friends and by family alike. It was not right or fair to us. People who knew us voted against us??? How does that even happen? How could they call themselves "friends" when they would do THAT to us???

Yeah, I remember.

Now, we have won, but you are not here to marry me.

I heard about the SCOTUS decision shortly before lunch. I cried through my lunch, actually. I kept looking at the picture of us I keep on my phone:

Pictures are the only way I have of keeping close to you these days. I cried because we wanted to be married. It was not just something I wished to happen. You decided that as long as it was a State-by-State deal that we were fine being unmarried. I would become frustrated with that opinion, though I shared it. I wanted to be married to you, Phil. I wanted our friends and our families to come to our wedding. It didn't have to be some big to-do. Yeah, yeah, my dream wedding was me in a tux and you in a kilt, but we could have done simple. That would have been our style. Us, a few friends, and someone to solemnize our vows.

We never got there.

Friday's decision was so very bitter and only passingly sweet to me. I visited Facebook where all of these guys in open relationships were bragging about how they were going to get married to their "one true love" and all that. It offended me! How could these men who are cruising websites and phone apps for sex from random non-partners get the opportunity to marry when I never will??? It is a f**king OUTRAGE to me that THEY get to be married!!!

We were a closed, monogamous couple. We were faithful to one another. We loved each other enough that we didn't need to be screwing other guys or cheating with some random dude. And WE were a threat to "traditional marriage"??? Meanwhile, the guys in open relationships are cashing-in on the new right to be married and STILL f**king around???

How is that fair?

It isn't. If you want to be married, fine. You stay faithful to the man you marry until the day one of you dies. If you find you can't do that? Don't get married. Don't you F**KING DARE sully marriage with your "lifestyle choice" of cheating and lying to the "love of your life"!!! Stay off the apps and websites where you're showing your dick pictures and your body, too. Only your husband needs to see that. If you're really looking for new friends, they don't need to hear about your favorite sexual activities or how big your penis is! If you want to behave like you're dating, then don't be married. Leave marriage for us guys who will treat it right!